My mom told me that a Malay neighbour of ours got a 2nd wife. That was a surprise to me. If I am not mistaken, he has at least 8 children and 2 grandchildren. The eldest is a year younger than me. He is just a supervisor with TNB.
His wife is a great lady. Full of patience, gentle, soft-spoken, always smiling, never once I see her sad face and pretty too.
His 2nd wife is a rich widower. His wife didn’t know about his 2nd marriage. Usually you have to ask consent first right? He just registered their marriage then bring the new wife home to meet the 1st wife.
I don’t hear any quarrels. Expected that due to the 1st wife nature. She has no choice but to accept it. She is a SAHM, depending on the husband for everything.
I saw her few days back. No smile on her face this time. First time ever, I see sadness in her face. I felt so sad and shed tears for her. No matter how nice a lady can be, we will never want to share our husband.
Stumble it!
March 17th, 2007 at 1:50 pm
That is so sad yet so true. I guess if I had to share my husband I would rather he had a different house with her and not have her move in. It would be better if I didnt have to see her face or see them talking to eachother.
March 17th, 2007 at 4:29 pm
That’s horrible. Then again, with all the PRC women invading Malaysia & Singapore….many Chinese men already have unofficial 2nd, 3rd & 4th wives outside. Worst some of these PRC women have a few unofficial husbands. The recent court case in Singapore, a NTU lecturer was exposed, he was sharing mistress with a few other men.
March 24th, 2007 at 6:30 pm
wow.. he got so big appetide.
March 31st, 2007 at 11:55 am
Malay can have up to 4 legal wives. No matter how sad and unwilling 1st wife is, she has to accept the fact. That’s our women’s fate. No matter how good you are, your partner will still find flaws in you. Will have 101 reasons to have affair. I’m not saying that this applies to all men. But majority are. Just see how often we hear of extra marital affair these days and the divorced rates. Shocking. But guess we just have to accept this is part of the social problem in this modern world.