Before I go out to pack dinner for my family, I told my eldest girl that if she is really hungry she is to ask the maid to cook instant noodle for her.
When I came home, I saw an empty plate with some grain of rice covered with dark soy sauce. I know there is no more eggs in the house so she can’t be eating fried egg with soy sauce (my children’s favorite - fried egg with dark and light soy sauce). I asked the maid what did she feed my daughter. She told me that my daughter insisted that she give her rice with soy sauce to the extend that my daughter scolded her for not giving in to her request.
Let’s hear what the other party has to say. Must be fair right?
My daughter told me that she asked the maid to cook instant noodle for her but she refused, telling her to wait till 8pm. If I did not come home by then, then only she will cook instant noodle for her. The maid knows that whenever possible, no instant noodle for my children. Cannot scold the maid for refusing to let my daughter eat instant noodle coz I did not instruct her before I left to cook instant noodle if they request for it.
But why did she let my daughter eat prison food??? Rice with dark soy sauce is much better than instant noodle? Why can’t she get her to wait till I come home? I came home 10mins before 8pm! I really pity my hungry girl. 
Instead of scolding the maid, I scolded my daughter for demanding prison food from the maid. Warned her to never ever eat rice with soy sauce only again.
I am feeling bad now. I should have scolded the maid.
Weaning is not easy whether you want to do it promptly like putting ACV, wasabe, or anything bitter on your nipple before letting your baby latch or take it slow and steady like what I am doing.
I succeeded in reducing my milk production to almost none by only allowing him to latch twice a day; before nap and before bedtime in which I make sure his tummy is full by giving him formula milk just before he latches onto me so that after a few suckles, he will doze off.
I was hoping that when there is no more milk for him to suckle he will give up my boobs or at least suckles them for comfort then back to sleep. But he is not letting me wean him off so easily. He still wakes up at 2.30am, 4.30am and 6.30am for his doze of mommy’s milk and when he gets none, he cries (very loud). You see, I normally give him his formula around 11.30pm before we head our pillows. I was hoping that will make him full till at least 5am but no, he still wakes up for mommy’s milk almost every 2 hours.
Last night, I gave in and woke up to prepare formula milk for him at 2.50am after 20 minutes attempt to put him back to sleep with empty boobs. I gave him 4oz only and a bottle of water which he drank and played with the water bottle before going back to sleep. Lo and behold, he woke up at 4.30am again but this time I gave him only water. Surprisingly, he did not refuse it like before; drank it and went back to sleep.
Tonight I wanna try giving him only water when he wakes up every 2 hourly. Must condition his body to sleep through the night. It is time already.
They left me on Sunday morning and returned last night.
You want to know what is music to my ears today? It is the sounds of my children quarreling, arguing, complaining, screaming, crying and shouting for mommy. All of a sudden, I felt so alive, my home is alive again and I felt complete.
I am sure in a few days time, I can’t wait to get rid of them for a day or two again! 
My Primary One girl finally finished her mid term exam. This mommy felt so relieved! I don’t think my mom goes through what I am going through now with my children’s education. She never tells me to do my homework, she never search my bag to see whether I have homework to do, she never check them to see whether I do them correctly and she never know when is my exam unless I tell her. And yet, I still get the top girl in my class almost every year.
I am not boasting here. It is just that why are we so independent then but not our children? Ok lar, my mom was not schooled. So, she can’t help me at all. The only school she went was tailoring class. So, she left it to me to do my best to stay out from being in the kitchen the whole day. Yup! That was what she told me, “If you do not want to end up in the kitchen, study hard.” But then hor, I graduated with a Bachelor Degree and I still ended up in the kitchen! mwahahahahaha. 
The other day my Primary One girl came back home with 49% in her Chinese spelling. I was surprised coz she told me that her teacher told her there won’t be any spelling for a long time. So I guess, there won’t be any spelling until the exam is over. But that is not the point. The point is, if I did not tell her to learn her Chinese words, she will fail in her spelling test. When I make sure she learns them, she will get 90-100%. She is smart but too depending on me.
I am thinking to let go just like what my aunt is doing (her son is my daughter’s classmate). She NEVER help her children do revision, they will always get ZERO and will be caned by their teachers but by the time they reached Primary Two, they have learned their lesson and obediently do their own revision before any test or exam. Will you do the same?
I don’t have the heart to do the same. My mom and I are not the same. I am educated and she is not. I have the knowledge and resources to help my children to excel in their studies. Maybe I will let go a little bit by getting her to look for her own homework instead of me going through her bag looking for them. I will still be there to guide and check her work. Knowing that she has her daddy’s genes - they hate to study, I will still be there to make sure she does her revision.
Dulu lain, sekarang lain.
I finally tried the time out when the magic wand and nagging does not work on my nieces. I was not feeling well, my throat went soar from scolding them and I am not in the mood to wave my “magic wand” so I tried the time out. It was sure a headache relief! The house was in peace for that half an hour.
This is the 5yo. The 3yo is at another corner.
I am not sure whether they will repeat their nuisance again but you know, kids are very forgetful one. Does not matter, I will remind them again and send them to their time out corner. Hmmm…I wonder whether it will work with my children. Must try! Must try!
Many of us loves children but do not want to have many of them because of finance. Is it that expensive to raise many children? It all depends on what you want to provide for them. Some parents have started investing in gold even before their child is born. They buy gold coins every month from the day the child is conceived. We do invest in gold but as and when we have the extras. So far, many months no extras.
We must also trust God to provide for our children’s need. I know all of us wants to give the best to our children but the best does not come in a form of private colleges or university or overseas education. To us, the best that we can give to our children is the life of Christ and raising them up to fear God then comes the education. If they have good characters, whether they are local graduate or overseas graduate, they will be loved by many.
The gold price went down a few weeks ago and I wanted to withdraw some to buy gold bullion but the exchange rate was pretty low. So, I waited, hoping that the exchange rate will be better. It went up a few days ago so does the price of gold. *sigh* Since the exchange rate is so low now, it is not worth to convert so I decided to just leave my USD in my Paypal account. I would be needing to use USD once I start homeschooling my children. Till then, I need to save as much possible coz homeschooling fee isn’t cheap.
Nya is “Mommy” for the Baba and Nyonya.
Like I said, life will be tougher for the next 2-3 weeks after MIL and maid leave us because my Nya is leaving us too for Kuching on Friday to be with my sister who will be giving birth anytime soon. There goes my cook and my part-time babysitter.
Not only that I have to resume cooking again, I have to babysit my brother’s 2 daughters whom my mom babysits after they return from kindy. I can’t imagine having 6 children under my roof! To feed and to wash their bum bum. Mwahahahaha…I want my mommy!!!
I am sure I won’t have much time here to write about lipozene reviews or even do virtual farming. 
And I am sure I will need to wave my “magic wand” more often. No worries, I have not use it for a long time already; just to threaten them because they are a bunch of stubborn kids just like their daddy (my brother lar tu).
Gone were the days when school children goes to school with only 20 cents in their pocket. During my days, my dad gave me 20 cents per day. And that is not for food. That is for bus fare. All of us get to eat free food sponsored by the school (government). 30 years ago, 20 cents can buy you a bowl of noodle. But definitely not now. 20 cents can get 2 sweets only.
During my days, you can hardly find any 20 cents lying around the house. Now, you can find 20 cents at every corner of the house, even under the bed and even in the bathroom. No one will “run” after it like my time. I will be so happy if I find 20 cents on the floor. That 20 cents can buy me lots of junk food.
And if someone borrowed from me 20 cents, I will make sure he/she return it to me the very next day. Unlike now, my daughter’s classmate (her mom is one of the school teachers! i still wonder why she did not just ask money from her mom) borrowed from her RM1 and did not return it to her. It has been 2 weeks already. What did my daughter do? Nothing coz she thinks her mommy got lots of RM1. Anyway, I just treat it as a blessing to that girl lar. Only RM1 what? I am not a miser.
Is it true that all Sekolah Jenis Kebangsaan are semi-private school? Do they receive full financial support from the Government? I was told that they receive very little. Due to that they have to look for other means of getting for income for the school. One of it is to collect papers, plastic bottles and cans for recycle.
Since the school my daughter attends is a “tiny” school, I help within my means; they have less that 30 students per class and only one class for each Standard. Just like my time. 
I think all the teachers know me already; the Recycle Mommy!. So today, I just sent one gunny sack of plastic bottles and cans each to my eldest daughter’s school for recycle. I have 2 more gunny sacks of plastic bottles. That will be 2 more trips to school. I is femes coz I don’t see other mommies bring “rubbish” to school. hahahahaha. Hope my “rubbish” can help them buy preschool furniture or whatever lar for the comfort of the teachers and students.
