Backache is better than tummy cramp

I have been having backaches for more than a month. With a backache, I still can walk around but not do any vigorous work or carry heavy stuff. Yesterday, my backache has been replaced by tummy cramp (lower abdomen cramp). I can hardly walk, stand, bend or carry my 1yo baby for long. No pain when I am seated down.

For a SAHM without any helper this is not a good condition. I have to stand by a chair beside me when I cook. I walk like someone who has just gone for a tummy operation/given birth.

My 1yo is napping right now. I am supposed to continue wiping the window panes but I need my tummy rest, so that’s why I am here for a while. I will try to attempt wiping the windows and walls after these.

I pray everything will be well come this Monday. I want to celebrate CNY without any pain on my body.

Baby Rebekah’s Birth Story

Her due date according to Due Date Calculator by BabyCentre and also ultrasound at 12 weeks is 11.01.11. Oh! We really hope that she will be born on that special date. But the government clinic where I go for my monthly check up gave me another due date that is on the 15.01.11. Don’t ask me why, I have no idea how they calculate my due date. It could be that I was not sure whether my last period was dated on the 6th or on the 8th so I gave the later.

Anyway, she decided to come out on the 13th! It was kinda good that she chose that day because the labor ward was kinda empty. I was the last person to give birth during that hour so I got all the attention. During labor, I was attended by 4 midwives! Because everyone was so free. hehehe.

Let’s start from the very beginning…

11.01.11 – Hubby was very anxious the whole day coz nothing is happening to me. No sign of labor at all. He was home the whole day too doing nothing except asking me, “any pain yet?” “why not we just go to the hospital?” Hello! I’m going to give birth in a GH. No labor sign, they’ll kick me out. Lots of expecting mothers who are really in labor need the labor room.

12.01.11 – Still no sign of labor. Carry my day as usual. Get children ready for school, send them, fetch them and make sure they finished their homework. Somehow, I did not manage to breastfeed my 4th child at all today. I got the feeling that this baby gonna come tomorrow.

13.01.11 – The moment the clock strikes 12, I started to feel a very mild contraction; just like period cramp when I was about to sleep. I was contemplating whether to sleep it off or check myself in. The contraction interval was half an hour apart. I tried to sleep but every contraction woke me up. Since this is No.5 already and we are worried that this baby might come out faster and easier than the rest, we left home to GH at around 2am.

2.25am – We arrived safely at the Labor Ward and I was told to change into the pink maternity gown. I don’t like wearing them; they are so huge especially the sarong.

2.45am – They need 1 hour to monitor the fetal heartbeat. New procedure I heard; they need the fetal heartbeat chart to prove that I came with an alive baby in my tummy. But then, if you come in pain; like very very painful, the doctor will check whether your OS has opened or not. Since I hardly show any sign of being in pain, they strap my tummy and left me alone listening to my baby’s heartbeat.

3.45am – After they got the reading then only the doctor inserted his thin and slender fingers (he is a skinny Indian male doctor) into you know what to check whether I have dilated or not. Opened already by 4cm. The nurse gave me enema then asked me to go clear my bowel. Then go get my stuff from the bag; baby’s clothing, diaper and pads. Then a nurse wheeled me off to Labor Room No.7. I can still walk but they insisted that I sit on the wheelchair. I think they do not want me to wander off peeping into other labor rooms. You think I want to see meh? Hear also I don’t want. Make myself even more terrified.

4.00am – A young Chinese doctor came in to clear my bladder. Thank God he was gentle and I hardly feel any pain. Then he broke my water bag to expedite the dilation of the OS. Then they called my hubby in to give me comfort when the real contraction pain starts to come.

5.00am – Started to feel some real contraction but the interval is like 20 minutes apart. OS opened by 6cm.

5.25am – The contraction is more intense but still bearable. Only need hubby’s hand to squeeze when the contraction come; 15mins interval. OS opened by 7cm already. The midwife told me to try to push whenever the contraction come to make the OS opens bigger. Then she left.

6.00am – Contraction gets more intense. I squeezed the metal railing beside my bed instead of hubby’s hand; don’t wanna his hand to turn blue black. hehehehe.

6.15am – After 3 rounds of squeezing the railing, I don’t want to bear the contraction pain anymore. Told hubby to call the midwife telling her that I wanna try to give birth. They came; 4 of them. Hubby was no where beside me coz one of the midwives were quite big size and hubby was made to stand behind her. Hubby was not able to get the full view of the birth process.

6.25am – A pale baby girl was born into this world after one continuous push. It was easy, fast and painless when she came out even though her head is 2cm bigger than her other siblings. I love the warm feeling when she slides out from my down under. This is the first time I did not cry after giving birth. :D

I really thank God for answering all our prayers. Fast and painless childbirth, perfectly healthy baby and extra ordinary strength to push the baby out. I also got a baby just like how I prayed that she will look like.

A few funny incident in the labor room and maternity ward which got to do with my Malay looking hubby. :D

1. When he entered the labor room, one of the nurses asked another nurse whether hubby is entering the correct room.

2. After I gave birth to our baby girl, one of the nurses/midwives showed hubby the toilet telling him that he can take his “air sembahyang” there to “Azan” his newborn. Hubby did not hear the nurse clearly and blur blur opened the toilet door thinking that the nurse asked him to help take something from there. After hubby left, all of them had a good laugh. :D

3. Before they send me to the maternity ward, we stopped at the registration counter at the labor ward to take my belongings. As hubby was carrying my bag out, the nurse at the counter asked; “Betul ke suami dia ni?” :lol:

4. At the maternity ward, one of the patients (Malay) did not believe when another patient (Malay) who has had a chat with me told her that my hubby look exactly like a Malay. When hubby came to visit, she came to take a closer look at hubby! :)

Anyway, this is not new to us. It happened each time I give birth there. They always got a surprised when they call out a Chinese name and a Malay man appeared. :lol:


Here’s a link to the birth story of my other 4 children : The Birth Story of My Children.

And photos of my last 3. As for my 2 older girls, have not buy digital camera yet. :P


Is Breastfeeding Possible During Pregnancy

I am still breastfeeding when I discovered that I am pregnant with my 5th child. So, mommies out there, breastfeeding does not prevent you from getting pregnant!

The first question that came to my mind was, can I continue to breastfeed my 4th child who is just 1yo then? I asked other breastfeeding mommies. Most of them gradually wean their baby within the first trimester. My mom thinks that I might risk the baby in my tummy health. Church members shared that baby will come out tiny and smaller than normal newborn baby and their growth spurt will be slower than normal baby. The nurses at the clinic advised me to wean before if I started feeling contraction when I breastfeed. They worried that I’ll have a premature baby.

Since I have set my mind to breastfeed my 4th child till he is 24mo, I did some research online and most articles mentioned that breastfeeding during pregnancy is possible. Listen to you body, eat more nutritious food and drink lots of water. I did just that and leave the rest to God. I persistently prayed that God will blessed me with a perfect and healthy baby without any handicap.

Praise God, I started to feel some contraction during breastfeeding 2 days before I give birth. Just a day before I give birth, I did not breastfeed my 21mo baby and the real contraction came a day after that. I gave birth to a perfect and healthy baby girl weighing at 3.1kg. She is heavier than her sisters at birth!

Since my breastmilk supplier is already there, she does not have to work hard to suck the milk out from my boobs like her other siblings! She is so blessed. :D

Challenges in Breastfeeding – Nipple Cracks

One of the pains that I have to endure after giving birth to my children is nipple cracks. It is because baby sucks on the nipple instead of the areola; the area around the nipple, the colour is darker than the rest of your breast tissue. Mine turns even darker and bigger when I am pregnant! Hey, this happens to all pregnant women. ;) I read that Mother Nature makes it that way so that it will be easier for baby to identify which part to latch.

So, when I complained of nipple cracks, the nurse will tell me that I did it the wrong way. The baby must latch on the areola not just the nipple. I really do not know how to do that coz baby’s mouth is so small. The most he can take in is the nipple and a small part of the areola; how to shove ALL the areola in?

So I endured the nipple cracks. Each time baby latches, it is as though that he is sucking on an open wound. Well, it is an open wound. After a week or two, the wound healed and the nipple become tougher and no more cracks. If you have nipple cracks, just use your own breastmilk and apply on it. It helps a lot to expedite the healing process, better than any cream.

Now I wonder whether the nipples toughen or baby’s mouth is bigger and he can take in more of the areola after 2 weeks being born into this world. ;)

Spirulina, Nature’s Epidural?

The nurse came to check on baby 2 days ago. I was telling that eating Spirulina during pregnancy can prevent baby from having jaundice. I think Huisia told me about it. Then the nurse told me that there are 2 cases recently in the hospital where 2 pregnant ladies who took Spirulina during pregnancy gave birth in the ward instead of the labor room because they didn’t feel any contraction pain and the urge to push. All of the sudden, the baby just slide out from their “down-under”.

I was telling the nurse, isn’t that good? No pain at all and no energy needed to push the baby out. She said that it is very dangerous and the baby and mother might get infection because the ward is not sterilized.

I don’t think it is the Spirulina. My SIL who took Spirulina throughout her pregnant had to endure 10 hours of pain before giving birth to her only daughter. And I don’t think Baby Jemima slide out of Huisia’s “down-under” but Huisia did have mild contraction pain only.

I don’t take Spirulina at all and I am blessed with mild contraction pain too. :D

I guess it is just a coincidence eh.

My Aunt is Pregnant Too!

My youngest aunt (my mom’s youngest sister who is the same age as me) is pregnant with her 4th child too. She will give birth in September. Wow! She is even faster than me. She got married later than me but she started producing offspring very fast. If I am not mistaken, their age gap is just 1.5 years. She told my mom that she planned to have 4 children by 35 and then stop production! :lol: My mom told me that this time around she is very thin. With 2 roundy boys and a girl, and working as a nurse, I am sure she do not need any Apidexin to stay slim down. Just like me. ;)

Loosing Weight During Pregnancy

Can you loose weight when pregnant? Kind of a stupid question right. Actually some people do loose some weight during the 1st trimester if they have bad morning sickness and are always vomiting whatever they eat. And if you are like me, who does not have appetite throughout my pregnancy, I do thin down when I am pregnant. I see my face shrinking and wrinkles become more obvious. I see my arms and legs have less flesh. The only thing that is big is my tummy. Don’t ask me where to find the top diet pills, I didn’t swallow any. My pregnancy hormone is my diet pills. ;)

Re-Reading My Firstborn Birth Story

MuShie MoShiu told me that she almost fall of the sofa reading The Birth Story of My First Child.

I wonder what is so funny about it. It was the most painful childbirth. So I went to take a look.

No wonder I cannot remember what I wrote because I did not write the post. It was written by my dear hubby. :)

After reading the cheong-hay (long-winded) and detail re-count of the birth story, without a doubt at all that she almost fall of her sofa because of this part of the childbirth:

The doctor told Michelle to push whenever she feels the contraction pain to hasten the labor. After that, whenever the contraction pain came, Michelle pushed. Every time she pushed, the baby did not come out but shit came out. I had to wipe and clean her. I thanked God that I was there to clean her. If the nurses had to do it, they might have scolded Michelle and that will not be good for Michelle. It was the first time I had to do that job but praise God I did pretty well. It was not the best job though.

As for me…I shed tears reading the post! “Where’s my boy?” I can never forget that part.  :)

The Birth Story of Ezra


Mother is always right. My mom told me on the 15th that baby will surely come out on the 16th. True enough, it all started around 2am on the 16th of April.I was watching Smallville with hubby and I started to feel mini cramps on my lower abdomen. Could it be the beginning of contraction pain? I have no idea because this pain is different than the contraction pain that I experienced with my 2nd girl.

Hubby told Baby if he wants to come out, please let him sleep first for at least 8 hours. So we went to bed around 2.30am.

At around 5am, I felt it again but I was in between reality and dreaming. Was I dreaming of having contraction pain? Was it for real? This is because I dreamed of having contraction pain before.

The next thing I know, my alarm triggered; time to wake the girls up to go to school. The pain is more intense and comes every 5 mins. Yay! IT IS contraction. I am going to give birth today! PTL that my pain is just like period cramp, very bearable. :D

I get the maid to help me out getting my girls ready for kindy and hubby to send them to kindy while I get ready to go to the hospital.

We arrived at the hospital around 9am and I walked all by myself, holding my tummy to the delivery ward while hubby looks for a parking space.

I checked myself in and the nurse asked me to change into their pink delivery garment. First internal check by the midwife, I am 6cm dilated. Then she called a doctor to do the 2nd internal check (i think this is their procedure before pushing me to the labor room). The doctor press, press my tummy saying that my baby is small. Then she did the internal check and this time she said it is in between 7-8cm dilated. “Push her to the labor room now, she can give birth already.” she told the nurse around.

I was like, “Really, but I am not really in pain. I have no urge to push yet.” So I thought, “Ok, maybe after they rupture my water bag, I will feel the urge to push.” Just like how they did it during the birth of my son.

I was wheeled (i can walk there by myself but the nurse insisted to wheel me there) to labor room 5 but there was another patient there still being stitched so, I waited for about 10 minutes.

At 10am, a Chinese midwife came in and told me to push when I feel pain. Then she waited. I was expecting her to rupture my water bag but she did not do that. Surprisingly, the contraction pain did not come that fast. She raised her voice at me, “No pain arh? You feel pain, Push!” I wonder whether she is against a Chinese who does not speak Chinese. I told her I can’t speak Chinese because she spoke to me in Mandarin the moment she saw me.

Where is my hubby? He is supposed to come in by now.

Right after that, the pain came so I pushed. Then stopped. No more pain mah; no urge to push also. Then the midwife stimulates my cervix and asked me to push when I feel pain again. Even though I feel no pain and no urge to push, I push with all my heart and with all my might just to get this over with and get her out of my face!

During the pushing, I did scream to give more power to the pushing and got scolded by the midwife. It is the rules; you cannot scream or shout when pushing. And each time I push, my right leg tend to close up a lil bit and the midwife scolded me again and kept pushing it apart. After the birth, I find difficultly lifting that right leg without feeling pain.

At 10.10am, I feel baby slide out from my down under. No pain at all because baby is small but surprisingly, he weighs 3.15kg, the heaviest among his siblings. And the happiest moment was to see “balls” instead of “apam”. :lol:

The moment the nurse places baby on my tummy, hubby appeared. I think arh, the midwife purposely did not inform the nurse to call my hubby in earlier. If hubby is around, I don’t think she will raise her voice at me.

The stitching was done very rough too but I dare not say a word because I scared that she will pull harder! With my other 3 children, I got a very caring, gentle and friendly Malay midwife. What an experience! Now I understand why many refused to give birth in government hospital.

Whatever it is, everything is over and I am blessed with a healthy and perfect baby boy. And I even thank the midwife for helping me to deliver Baby Ezra. :D

For the birth story of my other 3 children, click here.

Thank You!

Thank You all for all your well wishes!

I know that most of you are waiting to read about my birth story.

Well, I am pretty busy with baby and catching up with my assignments that I hardly find time to write in detail about my birth story.

At the same time, I am enduring a few type of pain! Talk about enjoying confinement. What is there to enjoy except watching baby sleep; he smiles a lot in his sleep.

My hemorrhoid swells big time this time around. Due to it, sitting down and getting up is really a pain in the butt (literally)! So, no typical confinement food for me; too heaty and no herbal drinks too; only plain water.

Apart from that, the backache from pregnancy still did not go away after baby is out, my nipple cracks and tummy cramps.

So, I will only write seriously after all the above is gone…hopefully in less than 2 weeks time.

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