Sketches of Life

Those days I don’t hear about wedding favors during wedding. Now, this western culture has slowly creeps into our wedding culture; which add more cost the already expensive wedding. Anyway, the marrying couple will still spend with the rational that it is only one in a lifetime; if you don’t divorce and re-marry lar. =P

If you don’t have high budget for your wedding, either scrap the wedding favor ideas or get those cheap wedding favor. If you were to surf the net. They do have lots of unique and cheap wedding favor. You just have to be more diligent in looking for good bargain. =)

7 years ago after our wedding, hubby hibernated during our honeymoon. He sleeps most of the time. 7 years after, it was my turn. I was too exhausted to even update this blog! I slept, nap, slept and nap. Only today, I am myself again. Awake and alive.

Wondering what we did on our wedding anniversary?

We did some banking; investment for the future then buy milk for the children; another form of investment for the future and fetch the children home from my mom’s. Had light lunch then head to Dr Fish, in Melaka Raya.

We took their package of the Fish Spa and Massage. RM80+ for me (Mother’s Day promotion) and RM85+ for hubby. However we went for the massage only because I am having my menses. Don’t wanna change the colour of the water and kill the fishes. Be going again with my children after I’m “clear” because they told us that it is free for our children!

The aftermath of the massage; my whole body aches especially my neck and due to it, I was down for 2 days.

I enjoyed my dinner though. I finally found a restaurant that serve beef steak that is thicker than 1cm and it tasted good too! The restaurant is on the 1ts floor of Carrefour called Le Garden. They served buffet Steamboat and BBQ too but we did not try that. I was too hungry to wait till 6.30pm. We were there by 5pm.

 The Sirloin Steak above looks like a piece of fish eh?

After dinner, we went to Tesco to shop for toilet roll! :lol:Then head home to shower and to bed.

7 years has gone by with many sweet memories. Hubby asked, what we have accomplished thus far. Well, we are still together, still loving each other and still very much in love. We have 3 kids; that is big accomplishment. We bought properties, we started our own business, I resigned and still driving our old junks.

I hope and pray that there will be many more 7 years to come and we will grow old together gracefully and without any health problem. Pray that we would never need any stair lift to go up the stairs.

There isn’t many occasion in my life that I really LAUGH OUT LOUD till I shed tears. I can’t remember when was the last time I shed tears due to laughter.

Today is the day. I really laugh and laugh and laugh till I shed tears. Wipes tears and laugh again and again and again.

It felt so good after laughing so much; really laugh.

Unfortunately, I can’t share the reason to it. It is too personal. All I can say is, thank you so much dear and you my dear.

Thank you for bringing me so much laughter today.

THEN:

I received the above bouquet of roses a day before my birthday and I was on top of the world because no one has given me any flowers for ages. These flowers are even more precious because they are from friends that never meet me before (one of them only actually).

Flowers will wither but I will not let this one “died” on me. I hang it upside down and let it dry. I must preserve this bouquet as how I will try my very best to preserve this special online friendship.

NOW:

I am still waiting for hubby to surprise me with a bouquet of flowers. The last I received from him was on our Marriage Registration Day; 010301.

Girls will be girls no matter how tomboyish you maybe. Once a guy start noticing you and you falling in love, you will be completely transformed to be a lady. That happened to me. Then I started to take notice of what other real girls are wearing and the way the carry themselves. Then I started collecting wholesale fashion jewelry to wear them when attending church and dating. To make myself look more girlish. Then one fine day, my boyfriend told me that he fall in love with me because I am a tomboy! Anyway, that was too late because I was enjoying being a girl and getting noticed by other guys!

If I can remember clearly, I never receive a real fresh rose for Valentine’s Day since I have a boyfriend and now husband. Either I dated/married a very practical man who does not like wasting money or a poor man. Hehehe. I don’t think my man is that poor. I think he is stingy! Hahaha.

If I were to marry someone who supplies wholesale roses, I will lack no roses on any occasion. I think I will get sick of seeing roses all my married life! Btw, I don’t think he will give me any rose on Valentine’s Day. Better he sells them and earns more money! Don’t you think so?

That is what hubby said about me.

Well, no wonder I do not have many real friends. First impression when they see me, Snobbish Girl and they did not try to get to know me better.

And I am not the type of person that approaches others. You have to make your first move. I am not snobbish, I am very shy. Really!

No wonder I have many online friends. They get to know me from my blogs and from chatting with me. They do not see my snobbish face!

I love to chat especially on MSN Messenger. It is my meeting place with other blogger mommies during working hours. We chat about everything. From blogging, working, parenting to marriage. If there is a free phone chat like Talk121 in Malaysia, I think we will be hooked to it.

If you are living in US, and love meeting new people and chatting then you might want to check out Talk121. You can call in for free chat or leave Voice Personals for others to hear when they are off the phone. How I wish we have this kinda free chat lines here.

We went dating again. This time, I did not trouble my mom to babysit my children. My maid cowtim them.

We went to Bert’s which is located at Klebang Beach, nearby the coming soon Marine Theme Park.

However the food there is super expensive. Fish & Chip for RM15.00. A Plate of French Fries for RM6.00. The cheapest food in the menu is Nasi Lemak which is RM3.00. Itu pun dah mahal but since we are seated and ordered our drinks, a small glass of Soursop for RM6.00 and a small glass of Ice Lemon Tea for RM5.00, we ordered the cheapest food and 10 Otak Otak at 60 cents a piece.

I think we paid for the ambiance. The restaurant is by the seaside and most of their customers are not locals.

After the dinner, we went for a walk at Pantai Puteri; taking picture of the night scenery.

I cannot keep my mouth shut anymore and I have spoken again. This time I told him what I felt like doing to the computer. I wonder whether is there something like a drug rehab centre for people who are addicted to online games?

If not, maybe I will admit myself into one. At least I know, there I will get some attention there. Oh well, I don’t think they would want me unless I get myself addicted to drug first. Not worth while. I think I just throw the computer away.

…YESTERDAY…30th November

I went to get my hair steamed because it has become too dry but I didn’t get the neck and shoulder massage as usual. Maybe steaming does not come with massage, only washing. Well, to save money, I brought my own shampoo and the hair wax for the steaming. I only pay for service charge of RM15.

After than hubby treated me for a buffet lunch at Renaissance Hotel. Well, for a 5 Stars hotel and the amount of dollar and cents that we paid, I was quite disappointed with the spread of food. That is why I did not snap any pix except this one as a remembrance. I only ate one tiny piece of each type. Not nice. But I really enjoy our quality time together where we talk about our future and our expectation.

After that we went to Jusco Playground to have some fun. We head for the drum first of course, our favorite. Then hubby felt like throwing some punches but finds me not his compatible target. Look at him punching away to release his frustration coz his wife pressured him to look for more money.

One the way to the Jusco supermarket to look for water to wet out throats due to so much laughing, I saw the Dr.Soho’s foot therapy booth. It is for removing of callus and minimizing the cracks on the heel. Since it is my birth day, I spend! RM68 for the scrapping (very ticklish), cutting, polishing, massaging and foot sauna to make the skin on my feet soft. Since it is quite expensive, I was expecting free gift like a promotional pen but none. It took around 1 hour so I released hubby to go to his shop to pay his staff salary.

Before

On of the steps…cutting away my dead skin.

After.

It does look better but not to my expectation. I want baby smooth heel!

While waiting for hubby to come, I went to shop for my children’s Christmas clothes. Jusco having sale.

Then I went took look for my birthday present; another lingerie. I am so picky that the one hubby bought for our anniversary has only been worn twice and then it is “where is it now ah?” The material rough mah, not comfortable to wear.

The lingerie at Jusco is quite cheap; the price is from RM29 to RM39 which made me so tempted to buy for my 3 lovers. But I did not, coz I worried some of them cannot fit in. hehe.

Time flies so fast when you are enjoying yourself. By the time we left Jusco, it was almost 5.30pm. Time to fetch the children home and to the clinic. My son was having fever. So dinner for the night was canceled.

Overall I had a very memorable birthday this year; thanks to my new found online friends and chat buddies and hubby willingness to finally spend money on food! Love you all.

Wow! I am going to have more than 3some tonight! LOL… Wanna know the secret on how to find 3 lovers? Come visit this blog more often (trick to get more traffic…hehehe).

I did not go work in the morning due to some personal problem and I taught of not going the whole day until Jess informed me that there is a cake from Msau on the way to my office. Oh well, have to go to work then. And this sexy lady pretended not knowing about it when I buzz her own the MSN.

They not only send me the able Marble Cheese Cake but red roses too.

They sure love me very much. None of my offline friends ever do this to me except my juniors when I was in campus. I am truly touched.

Hmm…maybe I will get them something for Christmas eh. Wait I see my money left in PayPal first ok…No promises.

It is amazing what heartache can do to your body.

I don’t feel hungry at all. Many later but not now. Not when my mind is still processing my thoughts.

Oh my menses stops too! If I am not mistaken, today is the 3rd day already but I feel dry not because I am using a good super absorbent sanitary pad but the flow just stops.

I have been going for supper lately. Instead of putting on weight, I feel I am shrinking!

The last time when I was in this kind of situation was back in my campus days. I managed to maintain at 45kg no matter how much I ate and how much I slept.

So, the secret to loosing weight is go get a heartache.

Am I experiencing heartburn or gastric attack?

I think more of heartburn because when I am distracted from current thoughts, the pain is gone. Actually my heart is paining (heartache) now.

When you think with your head, you will experience headache.

When you think with your heart, you will experience heartache.

Good analogy eh?

The ladies have been telling me about the positions in Lust Caution. What movie is that? Rupa-rupanya, Cantonese movie staring Tony Leung and dunno what is the heroine name. They have been bugging me to search for the picture. Oi, you think I am good at this meh? Some more it is in Chinese. You got the wrong person.

Finally the lady that bug me found the picture and told me to try it out? Why me? Ask Amy lar, she dances ballet and does yoga. I am sure she is very flexible. kekeke.

I am not allowed to give the link here. Email me if you want the URL.

Boss ex-personal driver called me last Saturday to invite me to his house during Hari Raya. Wah! He stills thinks of me even after leaving the company for 2 years already.

He is a good man and very hard working but once 2 of their children left for further study in Melbourne, they don’t really need his service anymore. As usual, he does not want to be the bad person by asking him to resign.

What they did was, bringing out all his past mistakes and highlighted each one of them and so-called forced him to resign. In this way, they do not have to pay compensation. Poor him, the driver I mean.

When I was 13 years old I was introduce to Penpal and I made quite a number of friends from overseas. I have one from Japan, Finland, Sweden, USA and England. Sadly I lost all their contacts. I am hoping that one day one of them will write to me especially John from England. We correspond with each other the longest compared to the rest. Maybe some of them are blogging too and having kids like myself.

As penpal, besides exchanging photos, we exchanged coins too. I have coin collection from all the country I mentioned above. However I do not know where they are today! I think they are somewhere in my mom’s place.

I was searching my cupboards and drawers in my room for my goggles last night. Instead of goggles, I found a special jewelry in a shoe box. A pink heart shape crystal pendant with gold plated chain still in its jewelry box. Behind the box, it is written Albert 1992. Wow! This is the longest gift that I have ever kept, 15 years.

Albert is a special man in my life. (Don’t get jealous hubby ) He is the one who thought me how to dance the proper way, stage dance. My first dance was to the song, Copacabana by Barry Manilow. I was only 15 years old then and he became my godbrother until we lost contact when I left for university.

But every time I hear the song, I will be reminded of him and the dance but I totally forgotten the steps to the dance!

Her name was Lola, she was a showgirl
With yellow feathers in her hair and a dress cut down to there
She would merengue and do the cha-cha
And while she tried to be a star, Tony always tended bar
Across a crowded floor, they worked from 8 till 4
They were young and they had each other
Who could ask for more?

At the Copa (CO!), Copacabana (Copacabana)
The hottest spot north of Havana (here)
At the Copa (CO!), Copacabana
Music and passion were always the fashion
At the Copa….they fell in love

(Copa Copacabana)

His name was Rico, he wore a diamond
He was escorted to his chair, he saw Lola dancin’ there
And when she finished, he called her over
But Rico went a bit too far, Tony sailed across the bar
And then the punches flew and chairs were smashed in two
There was blood and a single gun shot
But just who shot who?

At the Copa (CO!), Copacabana (Copacabana)
The hottest spot north of Havana (here)
At the Copa (CO!), Copacabana
Music and passion were always the fashion
At the Copa….she lost her love

Recently I found out from my colleague that she knew him too. He is now married with a son. I am too shy to contact him now. I wonder whether he still remembers me.

Wan & Peter became my close friend. They are not stupid but they are just slow learner. They are more humble and not proud like Stephen. So I help them in their studies, we ate together and play together. They visited me every Chinese New Year. Once we left for Secondary school, Wan’s dad was transferred to another state. I never meet him again until now. I still hope that we would meet one day.

As for Peter, I too did not meet him once we go to Secondary school. I was in all girls school, MGSS and he was in all boys school, SFI. However, I met him again when I got married to hubby, he is my BIL’s good friend too. He will come here every time he comes back to Malacca. He is working in another state. After not meeting for so many yeara, I am very shy when seeing him again, he too I guess. We don’t talk like we used to when we were small. I miss that kind of relationship where they treated me like one of the boys too. hehe.

He was my friend and foe.

Since Primary One I was always paired with him because when I got Number 1, he got Number 2. We even sat together in class. Not because we choose to but the class teacher arranged it. We became good friend only until Primary 3.

In the final exam, I got Number 6! Unbelievable. I got cane by my dad for that too. Stephen got First. He was so proud of himself that he distanced himself from me.

In Primary 4, we sat separately. Mid year exam, I got only Number 4. My dad gave up on me. I felt sad that he did not cane me. I was thinking maybe he don’t care about me anymore. Stephen got 1st again. I remembered that he smiled cynically at me.

I was very determine to get my place back. To prove to my dad that I am still his clever girl and to prove to Stephen that I am smarter that him! I got 1st in the final exam. I love receiving presents. You will only get present from the school if you are the 1st, 2nd & 3rd in class. I can’t remember what number Stephen got. That is not important to me. I got 1st again! That is more important.

Then 1st again in Primary 5 and straight As (5As) in the Penilaian Exam. My now BIL who was also my classmate got 4As 1B, the top boy for that exam. Stephen got 3As and 2Bs if I am not mistaken.

Starting Primary 5, I mingled around with the boys who are slower in their studies, helping them. Btw, I prefer mixing around with the boys rather than the girls. I was a tomboy, remember?

When I first got my own computer with internet connection that was after I got married, the first thing I did was download ICQ, sign up and waited to be wooed by men! hehe. See, even though you are married, still got people wants you!

Sometimes I will chat till late night due to the time difference and neglected my hubby! That’s bad but I don’t regret it though. I make quite a number of good online friends through chat rooms.

Even though I am quite busy with blogging now, I still keep in touch with some of them and one that is still quite close to me is Khalil from Kuwait. I so called stood by him when he divorced his wife, had an affair with his neighbor’s wife even though I condemn that action and now he and his wife got back together for the sake of his 3 children. I even helped him draft a letter to China because his container caught fire at one of the China’s port. He was worried that the Chinese would not understand his English!

Besides ICQ, there is WireClub which offers free chat rooms too. You can even start a blog, join their interest club and coming soon, something like Friendster where you can meet your friends’ friends and free dating service. Check it out.

These days there are a lot of scams around especially to those who are desperate. Like my uncle that I mentioned in this blog sometime ago. He bought a bride from Vietnam, she came here, married him and after 2 weeks took all his money and vanish. His agent does not know anything about it. How can they not know, a girl that comes from a rural area in Vietnam, never go to school and doesn’t speak other language than her mother tongue, how can she travel back to her own country all by herself? I am sure the agent must have helped her.

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An observation from my sister in law.

I noticed that you all brother and sisters don’t sit down and chat unlike my siblings. When we meet, we will talk and talk and talk.

I must admit that my siblings are not close to each other. Mainly it is due to the age gap and our dad does not show good example to us (yes, blaming the father :P). My dad never chats with us. Yes, NEVER. We only talk when it is necessary; most of the time when giving him the report card to sign. The rest, whatever we want from our father, our mother will be the mediator.

Then the age gap. There’s 4 years difference between my brother and me. I have a neighbour who is same age as me and we played together all the time. I don’t need a brother or a sister. I got angry when my mom gave birth to my brother! Yes, I want to be the only one. Selfish huh?

The only close siblings in my family are my brother and 2nd sister. They are just 1 year apart. 3 years later my mom got my youngest sister and she was really pampered by my dad and none of us like to play with her! She always got her way and we always got caned or scolding from our dad due to her.

So now, we siblings only talk when there is necessary. No casual conversation, no huh hah or no sharing personal feelings those sort of things.

Kinda sad thinking about it, huh?

But I thank God that my children are close with each other; love seeing them play together and chat. Something that I don’t experience with my own siblings.

I got a hilarious infidelity story told by my Bangladeshi worker. His personal experience. He told me to keep it a secret but I cannot keep my mouth shut and told it to Msau and Jess over MSN. It is so funny to keep it to myself. As long as people in my office don’t know, he is safe.

Sorry, I can’t post the story here. Don’t want to risk getting banned by blog advertiser for having sex content. So, if you really want to know, ask Msau or Jess or ping me on MSN.

It is nice to have a family doctor who is also a Christian and also a church member (was). We came from the same church last time. Why I said that? Well, we get discount of course and sometimes FOC.

Like today, I went to see him. I just told him that I wanted the flu medicine and MC, the rest don’t give me, I still have them at home. Got scolded from him for not finishing my medicine! hehehe. He still insist to see me though. Check my temperature, blood pressure, heart beat and my throat. After he is satisfied, then only he prescribes the flu medicine for me.

FOC again! Good also lar, not that I can claim my medical bill from my company.

I was taken aback when Msau told me that someone complaint about her blog in Cari Makan forum. Much more surprising to know the person that mentioned her blog is one of our close blogger’s husband. Maybe he didn’t know that Msau is his wife’s blogger friend.

Some of us blog to cari makan you know. One rice bowl is broken today. I know that Msau put so much effort to improve her English because of paid post. She has very good ideas when it comes to paid post but sometimes, her poor English comes in the way. From time to time I will help her to edit her post when it is rejected. We should help each other, not bring them down.

If you see any blogger violating any blog advertiser’s ToS, please give them a nudge. They might not realize that they are violating the ToS. If they still continue violating it after we informed them, then we will know that they are doing it on purpose then only tell the whole world and report it to the blog advertising company. Isn’t this the right this to do? I believe everyone should be given a second chance.

When I first met hubby, he was the bartender in the restaurant that we worked. The best thing of having a bartender boyfriend is you can enjoy cocktails almost everyday (psst…boss don’t know. Hehe). He loves making the Mixed Drinks Cocktails. The one I like the most is A Few Of My Favorite Things, a mixture of Amaretto Almond Liqueur, Bailey’s® Irish Cream, Kahlua® Coffee Liqueur, Vanilla Liqueur, Butterscotch Schnapps, Vodka & Milk.

Sometimes when we do not have customer at night and the boss is way, you know, when the cat leaves, the rats come out, we have the time of our life playing Drinking Games like the coin drinking game called the Spinner. Thank God none of us become alcohol addicts! Well, if you like to try making your own cocktail, there are hundreds of Mixed Drink Recipes from SuperCocktails.com.

I just ate 2 pieces of Him Heang’s Tambun Biscuit that was brought to Malacca all the way from Penang. It is a gift from Sara, the manager of a MNC, one of my company’s customer. She went to Penang for a conference and she remembered me! Not only that she also gave me another box of Beh Teh Saw. Don’t ask me to translate I do not know Chinese.

I went to Penang recently and I don’t even bought back any of the above! Lazy to carry.

Btw, she is still single. Anyone interested? Do let me know.

…going out dating with hubby.

What are you thinking ah???

Since my mom is away. There is not night out for us. Hubby works everyday because his did not allow his assistant to take leave. If the assistant take leave, hubby has to be at the shop the whole day. Who is going to take care of our children then since hubby doesn’t allow me to use up my leave? I’m left with 2 days of annual leave. That will be used for the coming church camp in September.

My mom is coming back this coming Saturday. The first thing that I will do is send my children to her and go dating with hubby!